Yesterday I wrote about learning to say no. And how one of the advantages is that saying no gives your more opportunities to say yes to the things that really matter. If you’re a parent, you might have experienced this. You’ve got some kind of work to do for someone, for your job or for an organization you volunteer with. And the day that you’ve got something happening is the day your son or daughter wants to do something with you.
This is what helped me realize that I was saying yes to too many things, and sometimes that led to not being able to do things that were more important. As my kids were getting older, they didn’t want to spend as much time with Dad anyway but if they did and I was busy with something, how crazy is that?
Once you free up some of your time, you have the “luxury” of being able to decide where to spend it. And I don’t think it can ever be the wrong choice to spend it with family or friends.
Is there someone in your life that you don’t see enough of? Or some kind of project around the house that you just haven’t had time to get done? Those are the kinds of things I’d suggest are the important things to focus on.
Pick a day sometime over the next couple of weeks and set it aside to do something you’ve been putting off for too long. If you need to go back and say no to someone you’ve already said yes to, so be it. Free up that day, spend it doing something you want to do and you’ll get a taste of why this process of freeing up your time and using it more effectively is so satisfying.